Is boarding school a good idea?

It is a very old question, maybe a dilemma, of whether to admit a child into boarding school or not.
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Helps develop confidence

Experienced ‘boarders’ are divided on the issue, though not equally. A majority have reflected on boarding life during their younger days as one of the reasons for their successes in life – organisational skill at their workstations, independent decision-making capability, and the ability to work with others, leadership personality and so on.

Can be traumatising, if bullied

But the smaller voices cannot be ignored. Boarding life can be traumatising, depending on the environment. After the lights are turned off, stories abound of ghosts and ghouls tracing paths across the corridor. Also, the Stories about EERR sound in the middle of the night. Dangerous pranks one may call these but for some it can leave behind fears that may last a lifetime. However, the real trouble is when older students gang up and turn bullies. Weaker ones or loners are the usual targets, they are asked to do every day jobs and stand on their heads, sometimes literally, to please the rivals. To some ex- ‘boarding-schoolers’ such treatment, they say, gave them confidence to face up to anything as they grew into adults. Oddly, some parents insist that their children go through the same ‘hard’ experiences that they did, bullying and all and hence opt for boarding school.

Why boarding school?

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While the jury may be out on the benefits and the demerits of boarding school, one must first question the need for boarding school. Why must a child be put in boarding school? Or, why does a situation arise for boarding school? For a start, parents must give consideration to the quality of education that they are getting presently and weigh it against a potential school elsewhere, where it is perceived or established that the standard of education is higher. Elsewhere, can be anywhere in the world, as is the case with students travelling overseas for college education.

But in the case of a school, where the age of the child is such that she or he is highly impressionable and vulnerable, it is important to assess the schooling and residential environment earlier. More importantly, the child must develop a comfort level with the school before any decision is made.

The closer home, the better

Most boarding schools restrict parents from visiting the students often, but it is a good idea to allow parents to meet the child as often as they wish to, without venturing to take the child out of campus. This way, the routine or discipline is unaffected and at the same time, the child is not left feeling distressed or emotionally low on account of the disturbance of moving out of the comforts of home and into a boarding school knowing that parents are close at hand.

So this brings into perspective, how far really must your boarding school of choice be from your hometown? Experts believe that an overnight journey is the longest you should take to get to your child’s school. International Community School, Governing Council member and experienced counsellor, Edwin David believes, ‘the very fact that your parents can get here the next morning, is reassuring.’ He adds, ‘In a medical emergency too, the presence of parents sooner than later, can be the turning point.’

A balanced scorecard

Should a boarding school get rated only on the quality of education (widely understood as expertise in academics) or should it be measured on a balanced scorecard? Academics Advisor at ICS and expert educator, Cynthia Mulley states, ‘A range of developmental activities is a must. The school must possess adequate play and recreational area and agenda. ‘The after-school hours activity must more than match what one may get as a day-scholar? ‘In those households, where the mother is a homemaker, the after-school daily routine for the child is pretty much in place – wash and change, a snack, games in the neighbourhood park, a hot bath, some reading exercises, dinner, a bit of homework and revision, a glass of milk and then to bed! Boarding school must provide the very routine that homes with both parents working, cannot afford to carry out.’

Television takes over until one or both parents return… Boarding school fills this gap with a daily routine that keeps the child occupied, mentally and physically. ‘The child must be tired, but highly enriched when she or he climbs into bed, each night. It is up to us to make sure they have a full day,’ concludes Ms Mulley.

Health and hygiene

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The importance of health and hygiene cannot be ignored. ‘High sanitary standards are topmost,’ says Dr Gita Jayaram, ICS Governing Council member and family health expert. ‘Good habits like washing hands before a meal, after games and after classes is a must. Especially, a germ has a way of travelling unseen and suddenly into the mouth or nose.’ Parents must look at the drinking water source and even the cutlery provided by the school. A visit to the school kitchen may also not be out of place,’ she shares.

Interview the dormitory-in-charge

You must get a comfortable feeling about the dorm parent. Is this the person going to meet your child’s expectations, emotionally? A child develops a lifetime bond or lifelong aversion as the case may be, to the dorm parent/matron. ‘When choosing a boarding school,’ says Mr David, ‘it is important to pay particular attention to the personality of the individual that is entrusted with the care of your child. Communication skill must be of highest standards. If the dorm parent is trained in child psychology, then you are in for a long term and mutually positive association. She or he must also be a disciplinarian – no question of bullying or intimidation or rules-breaking on her watch. So it will take a kindly disposition but a firm attitude to make a good matron or dorm-in-charge. Identify this fine combination in the individual.’

A progressive boarding school is careful about who they hire for this vital position!

Of course, the smaller the school, the better. Small schools be liable to personalize their efforts much more effectively than larger boarding schools can. The more homely the boarding atmosphere, the greater the chances of your child faring well during this critical journey of early education.

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Author: Educationista India

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